F*ck the rules

Fuck the rules. Your coping is keeping you stuck.

You’ve been praised for how much you can handle.
How well you multitask.
How calmly you hold it all together.

And because you can cope —
you keep coping.

You say you’re fine.
You squeeze more into days that are already full.
You push through pain, tension, stress — because that’s what you’ve always done.

People call it resilience.
They admire your strength.
They think you’re built for this.

But your body knows the truth.

Your nervous system isn’t overwhelmed because you’re weak.
It’s overwhelmed because coping has become your default operating system.

And here’s the part no one tells women like you:

Coping is expensive.

It costs you sensation.
It costs you ease.
It costs you the ability to tell when something is actually wrong — because you’ve trained yourself to override the signals and carry on.

At some point, coping stops being a skill
and starts being self-abandonment.

“Getting through it” becomes the very thing keeping you stuck.
Strength turns into shutdown.
Control turns into disconnection.

This is where most rules quietly reinforce the problem.

The rules reward you for holding it together.
For being professional.
For not rocking the boat.
For staying operational.

They don’t reward honesty.
They don’t reward listening.
They don’t reward stopping before you break.

So when you feel the urge to slow down, to change course, to do things differently — the rules whisper:
Don’t.
That’s not how it’s done.
Keep going.

Fuck those rules.

They weren’t built for your nervous system.
They were built to keep systems running smoothly — not humans well.

The women who are actually thriving right now aren’t coping harder.
They’re breaking the quiet rules that told them to stay silent, stay strong, stay busy.

They stop performing “fine.”
They stop managing everyone else’s comfort.
They stop overriding their body just to meet expectations that never asked if they were okay.

This isn’t about doing less for the sake of it.
And it’s not about burning everything down.

It’s about doing differently.

A quieter rebellion.
A smarter one.
A sustainable one.

Your comeback doesn’t start with another strategy.
It starts when you stop coping long enough to notice what your body has been trying to tell you.

That’s where the real shift begins.

N xo